The fetishization of sexual violence
June 8, 2025
This is something I've talked about other grooming / SA victims with and something that's made social media (namely Tumblr) completely fucking unbearable for me lately. I have a lot of thoughts on this kind of thing, more than I think I can eloquently summarize here.
I'm kinda shocked that the whole Ezra toonimal / pediverse debacle didn't blow open for some people how content that glorifies incest / pedophilia / what have you is used to desensitize and groom others, and it sickens me to see these "pro-paraphile" / "radqueer" shitstains just... out in the open.
I want to say that I think that even if you're not some gross cave creature that fantasizes about fucking dogs, the idea that kink is radical praxis somehow is stupid. The idea that sex exists in a bubble completely separate from societal influence is not only incredibly stupid, it's willful ignorance. This sort of discussion is exhausting to me, especially as someone who has actually experienced sexual violence, but I want to make my stance clear on this.
For the record, I'm aware that victims of SV often romanticize what happens to them, either as a form of denial or as a form of self-harm. I've been there, too, and I can promise you that you will be happier when you stop doing this to yourself. It's also common for lesbians and transgender people to develop violent fetishes ("dykebreaking", "detransition", or rape fantasies) for similar reasons. If it arises from self-hatred or feelings of inferiority, it isn't healthy.
I have some sympathy for victims of SV who fall into these patterns, but they're still maladaptive and self-defeating.
I don't know. I think if more of these people knew people who actually had their bodies permanently mangled from sexual abuse as children, maybe they'd realize "oh fuck, what am I doing?" I don't know. This type of shit is incredibly upsetting to me and I wanted to talk about it. I might go more into depth about my thoughts on this some other time.
